I continue to hold the position that the SNL Skit is innocuous, and not worthy of all this wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Yes — I saw the NCTE survey results.
Yes — the numbers are horrifying.
Yes — I am one of those transsexual people who very seriously considered suicide, over a ten year stretch.
Yes — prejudice and discrimination in hiring, is a monster problem for M2F TG/TS people.
I transitioned 26 years ago (March 1985). My female resume has only *ever* gotten me one real interview, and zero jobs.
Yes — the M2F TG/TS community has a HUGE hole to dig out of. AND, the SNL Skit never was, and never will be, anything which makes those problems any worse.
I have been a very Out activist and educator for and about the TG/TS communities, and for the GLBTIQ communities, for almost 30 years. I was a VERY active part of the ICTLEP conferences for all seven years that conference went on. Out of that conference, a small group of us activists created the foundational definitions, concepts, etc., which have become the Gender Identity, Gender Expression protective language within corporations, cities, and a couple of states.
I am NOT ignorant of the overwhelming plight of this community. AND, the SNL skit never was, and never will be, anything which makes those problems any worse.
When I transitioned, my mother asked me how I intended to overcome the problems — the perceptions — created by every vaudeville comedian, who had become early television stars, of appearing in drag. Flip Wilson, Milton Berle, come immediately to mind. Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon playing women in the movie “Some Like it Hot”, Dustin Hoffman in “Tootsie”, wow – -there is a shot of reality; with single moment changes from male to undetectable, passable female and back…
Nathan Lane’s character in “Birdcage”, Or Felicity Huffman’s character Bree in “Transamerica”, Poor pitiful feel-sorry-for-me Bree? …and SO many others.. How about the recent movie “Big Momma’s House”, with Martin Lawrence in drag. And its sequel, “Big Momma’s House, Like Father Like Son” due out shortly. Aren’t those all just “marvelous” depictions of M2F TG/TS people and the life struggles we all face?
Are we prepared to protest ALL of these movies and portrayals out of existence as well? Earlier this afternoon, TruTV’s America’s Dumbest Criminals, ran a egment showing a guy stealing underwear from a clothes line; when he was arrested, on camera, he was wearing a bra holding HUGE breast forms. Are we prepared to have GLAAD and HRC protest that bit off of YouTube, TruTV, and everywhere else it might exist?
Everyone has seen several editions of “People of WalMart” photos.. In virtually every set, is at least one photo of a very obvious guy wearing a skirt and Go-Go boots or similar. In real life, all of us have seen at least one obvious guy wearing what is virtually a prom dress, walking in the mall on a Saturday afternoon.
No, the SNL skit is nothing new, nothing to see here, move along you lookie-loos….
Yes — the people within this community have created an environment with HUGE hurdles, many of which do not need, never needed, to exist.
While we worked to try to get society and legislators to be more compassionate toward us, we allowed our people to go swimming and frolicking in the cesspool, and almost none of us object to that. Almost none of us object to poor caricature portrayals by the people in our own community.
When we lobby for acceptance and legal protections of any Gender Expression, we enable the potential for EVERY Gender Expression. And when no one is willing to draw any kind of line in the sand for our own people, we cannot then cry when it goes badly for them, or for us.
I am NOT blaming the victim, here. I am blaming those people within our community, who should have been working all along to help, people in transition, to educate them, to make it all go easier for them.
We cannot continue to allow our people to walk the mine field, while we refuse to help them to learn how to get around the mines.
Read almost any, almost every, transgender web site, and see comments and photos which show virtually all M2F TG/TS people trying SO very hard to portray themselves as sexy, sexual young women, regardless of their age, or their body type.
As my mother asked me 26 years ago, where do the common people get to see reasonable, rational transgender people? That question is still largely valid today. The MOST successful of us, become stealth, and *still* virtually no one else in society gets to find out that there really are reasonable rational M2F TG/TS people.
Yes — there is a problem, a HUGE problem. And it is OUR problem. It is WAY past time to stop blaming a society who’s people do not give one moment’s worth of care for ANYONE else for any reason…
… it is WAY past time to stop blaming society for all of our problems, to stop asking others to fix the problems for us, and to wake up and begin to fix our problems, ourselves.
It is up to us, the experienced leadership of this community, to take the reins and to teach our people how to do a proper transition. Now.
For many years, there was a national cartoon strip called Pogo. Its author coined a term which has become iconic in America: ”We have met the enemy, and he is us.”